Why being alone feels scary?
We people work through associations and we find solitude scary because we have associated it with unpleasant and unwanted emotions such as loneliness, sadness or depression. I know this because I’ve been there too.
I was scared of being alone and with myself because I was terrified of how lonely it would make me feel, so I avoided even trying it. I ended up surrounding myself with others to such an extend that I couldn’t even hear my inner voice anymore. I also ended up staying in relationships which were meant to finish, out of an overwhelming fear of loneliness once if let them go. How scary and wrong, right? And then, the inevitable happened.
I ended up being alone. I ended up alone, but I didn’t feel lonely. I ended up alone, but it wasn’t depressing. I, in fact desperately needed this. I was avoiding myself for so long that something actually had to happen to remind me of an importance of solitude. To hear my own thoughts without external intervention. To face the demons that over-time built inside me, but nobody fought them before and to connect with my intuition and my inner voice that had been silenced for what felt like ages.
Solitude wasn’t exasperating, it was required, deeply desired and healing.
“There are times when alone is the best place to be.”
There are numerous advantages and benefits of spending time alone. It helps to relax and recharge ourselves as constant interaction with others without a break leaves us feeling overwhelmed and emotionally drained. From a productivity perspective, it’s a great time to progress toward our personal goals as 1. we realize what we want and 2. become more efficient. We learn about the power of concentration and how much easier it is to complete tasks when focused on one thing such as focusing on ourselves. It also teaches us independence and self-reliance as we avoid external interruptions and learn to make decisions ourselves without seeking approval and consulting others. But the most important thing for me is that being alone allows us to connect with ourselves on a deep level and understand what is truly important for us and what we do want out of our lives. It also enables us to reflect and think differently. Do you know why is that?
When we’re alone, nothing prevents us from hearing our inner voice, heart, and mind. And finding answers to the fundamental questions about ourselves.
We acknowledge our true feelings and deep desire much better when nothing external such as other people’s thoughts, perceptions, opinions or expectations, is getting in our way. We get to know how we truly feel about something, what makes us happy, what do we want and whether we really want it and whether we’re moving in the direction we want in our lives.
Let’s reflect upon this all.
After hearing all this, does solitude sound a bit better? Can you see a different association? Does it feel like a process you’d actually like to experience? In this place, I am inviting you to do so.
There's nothing more important in life than learning how to be with ourselves.
It’s not just nice to have but essential to consciously make time to be alone. For any of us and all of us. And once you’re alone, you have the space to make the most of the experience. One of the greatest things solitude offers is a space for quiet reflection.
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